Bereavement, grief and loss can cause many different symptoms and affect people in multiple ways. There’s no right or wrong way to feel – it’s ok not to feel ok about this if it has affected you.
Typically, people choose not to talk about grief and loss as it is a difficult subject and can uncover a variety of emotions. People often feel embarrassed that anything they will say will be the wrong thing or upset the person dealing with this – but silence can be perceived as uncaring.
Some people will figure out how to deal with bereavement with the help of family and friends, while others may need the support of a professional counsellor.
We spoke with Patricia Brady, Registered Nurse and Bereavement Counsellor, who decided that she wanted to help others after a personal encounter with grief – she wanted to make a difference when people faced the toughest points of their life.
“During my deep grief, I realised the importance of support following a tragic death. How life can change in every way including your physical and mental health. I concluded that support should be available to everyone when a life-changing situation occurs.
I became very aware that following the death of a loved one, we need someone who truly understands our journey and can listen without judgement, show compassion and allow the bereaved person as much time as possible to process the enormous challenges ahead.”
Patricia completed a very unique training course at The Alliant International University in Phoenix, Arizona, USA in 2015 and became a specialist in the Art of Traumatic Grief Counselling. Patricia was awarded the Compassionate Bereavement Care Provider certificate and practices at the Isobel Hospice in Welwyn Garden City, Hertfordshire.
Patricia uses her skills whilst working for Cavendish Homecare. Her expertise and patience is invaluable when working in Palliative Care, as she is able to provide individual holistic care and support for clients, their families and staff during this complex time – always ensuring best practice and outcomes.
Patricia has also supported the national charity Roadpeace as a befriender/counsellor for the past 10 years.
Roadpeace provides information and support services to people bereaved or seriously injured in road crashes, and engage in evidence-based policy and campaigning work to fight for justice for victims and reduce road danger.
“My role involves supporting the newly bereaved with one hour weekly sessions where clients can talk and process their grief with somebody who truly understands the impact on their life journey through the grief process. These sessions can go on for as long as the client needs them to, often many months or even years, there is no limit or timescale to the support I offer.”
Final thoughts from Patricia,
“I have come to realise clients do better in their grief journey knowing that the counsellor has experienced a similar tragedy, it gives them hope that one day the pain will ease and there is light at the end of the tunnel. Every client has their own way of dealing with grief, there is no right or wrong way. A great deal of patience and understanding is required doing this work, it is very fulfilling knowing you can make a difference and comfort the newly bereaved through listening and non- judgmental engaging.”
We want to thank Patricia for sharing her story and journey into bereavement counselling. If these feelings are affecting your life, there are things you can try that may help. Support is also available if you’re finding it hard to cope with stress, anxiety or depression, wherever you work.
At Cavendish Homecare we are experts in providing palliative homecare for individuals with terminal illnesses who want to remain in their own homes. We work to support the patients and their families with sensitive and comforting palliative care in London.